How to Stop Micro-Managing the Way Your Life Shows Up

Let’s follow through with the flower seed analogy from yesterday’s post.

Decide what it is you want to manifest in your life/business (type of flower).

Your seed will not turn into a flower if you dig it up every day to check and see if it’s really growing. Just give it the water and sun it needs and it takes care of the rest.

Are you capable of releasing and letting go, realizing all that is needed to create your flower is in the seed?

Have you ever had a flower show up all by itself outside the pot you have been watering and fertilizing? How is that possible? A flower (abundance- more money, a new car, new relationship, weight loss, etc.) just showed up without any participation being required of you. All you need to do is get out of the way and let it do what it does. Where do you need to do this in your life now?

Are You Digging Up the Seeds of Your Business To See If They Are Growing?

Universal principles are in action at all times whether you have an awareness of them or believe in them. The only change that is necessary is your awareness of this fact. When a flower seed lands in fertile soil, it just grows. It doesn’t matter if you are aware of its existence or if you believe it can grow. It’s simply a law of nature in action.

As a success coach, I can tell you it works the same with the principles of abundance in your life. You don’t need to dissect them to see how they work or why, you just have to have faith they do. Getting out of your own way is hard. You have to fight the impulse to second-guess your thoughts and actions.

Make sure that your commitment to your goal is 100%. Know in your heart it is manifesting now and then let it go. Don’t worry about how you are going to make it show up. That’s not how it works. It’s the same with manifesting anything; be clear, be committed and be open to opportunities. Don’t be stuck on how it shows up.

Create a Personal Manifesto for Personal Growth and Professional Development

A manifesto is a series of statements clarifying what you stand for in your life as well as what you won’t stand for.

Having a personal manifesto helps keep your focus on who you are and your purpose in life. I created my personal manifesto as a certificate with a personalized logo and it’s up on the wall in front of my desk.

You may be wondering why it’s so important for women in business to have some kind of measuring stick, such as a personal manifesto, to use in your decision making process for personal growth and professional development. At a conference I met a man who was extremely successful at predicting the futures market, which is a part of the stock market.

He felt he was really successful in just about every area of his life except for his weight. He was extremely overweight. He had gone to see his mentor in person, and they had a conversation where his mentor asked him, “What are your rules about your weight?”

He thought about it, and he realized, “Okay. I’ve been so successful at my work because I have clear-cut rules on how I do everything in my business.”

He also quickly realized that he had never set up any personal development rules about what his health was supposed to look like. He had a vision and an action plan in every other area of his life, and, surprise, the one area of his life that wasn’t working was his health and his weight.

So he went home from that meeting and spent several hours writing out what he wanted his health to look like; much like a personal health manifesto.

He decided he was going to lose 70 pounds in 70 weeks, without starving himself or being on a diet. Then he planned to make millions by telling other people how to do it.

This is only possible because he established a plan, an outline of what health looked like to him, and what he would and wouldn’t have in his life pertaining to his health.

That’s what your personal manifesto is. It’s the rules you’ve set for yourself to be who you are. It is an easy reference for women in business. When something comes up and you aren’t sure what to do, you can look at your personal manifesto and see if it fits with what you wrote. It won’t be long before you don’t have to look at your manifesto at all. It will become a natural part of your internal decision making process for personal growth and professional development.

One multi-millionaire friend of mine mentioned she was setting up a new real estate investing partnership. She talked about the rules they set for how they were going to find properties, who the partnership would acquire them with, and how they would sell them.

Everything you want to be successful at needs a set of rules or guidelines that you follow so you have a way to determine your level of success and a way to judge opportunities as being a good fit or not for personal growth and professional development.

You don’t have to call it rules. If you have a problem with the word rules, which most women in business do, you can use guidelines, blueprint, roadmap, or whatever you want to call it.

Creating a personal manifesto is the first step in deciding what’s most important to you.

Corporate Sponsors Have Cash For You

Have you ever wished that a major nonprofit (including charities and associations)
or a corporation (including Fortune 500 and smaller companies) would:

>>> Email their employees, customers or volunteers about you, your book or business?
>>> Feature you on their website
>>> Feature you in their newsletters or print publications
>>> Issue press releases for (or about) you
>>> Invite you to speak at their events
>>> Arrange media appearances for you
>>> Buy and recommend your products and services
>>> Refer you to other organizations
>>> Hire you as a consultant
>>> Use your products or services in a sweepstakes promotion
>>> Give you testimonials
>>> Fund your seminar, special event, book tour, or marketing expenses
>>> Spend thousands of dollars promoting YOU?

Simply, have you ever wanted to GROW your business and GIVE BACK at levels most
people have ever dreamed about?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you’ve got to attend Brendon
Burchard’s Nonprofit & Corporate Partnership Seminar.

Last night I interviewed Brendon Burchard on exactly how he got those Corporate
and Non-Profit partners that have allowed him, in just the last 18 months-and by
the age of 30!!!, to reach millions of people with his message, He’s quadrupled
his income, and he’s helped his favorite charities raise hundreds of thousands of
dollars in donations and free publicity through these partnerships and sponsorships.”

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On that call Brendon laid out the complete process for doing a proposal to both corporate
and non-profit partners. Now he’s going to teach you all his secrets at his live seminar.

Don’t miss this event! This is a once-in-a-lifetime chance to learn
Brendon’s secrets, including:

>>> Why nonprofit and corporate partnerships are the most important and
effective marketing strategy for building your brand and business

>>> How to position yourself so that nonprofits and major corporations
will spend thousands of dollars on promoting YOU to their members,
customers and communities

>>> How to identify “perfect-fit” nonprofit and corporate partnerships…
and how to write the perfect partnership proposal to stand out and win
the deal fast

>>> How to incorporate your partnership platforms in marketing materials,
book proposals, sponsorship requests, or any document that can get you
ahead and build your business

>>> What you MUST do to win partnerships and sponsorships and the four
things you must NEVER say to a potential partner

>>> How to leverage your platform to quadruple your client base,
sponsorships, product sales, press appearances and event attendees

>>> How to build extraordinary wealth and give back to your community
through your partnerships and sponsorships

I hope you can make it. Brendon’s strategies are the most impressive
I’ve seen and he can truly help explode your business.

Rave Reviews for Interview with Dr. Deborah King, author of “Truth Heals”

The thank you’s for Dr. King have been pouring in as 100’s of listeners found answers to their questions on an array of topics.

If you missed this interview last week, you can still listen by clicking here now.

Here’s a recap of what we covered:

Do you use these excuses?

* I can’t…
* I won’t…
* I don’t know how….
* I don’t know why this keeps happening…
* It’s not my fault…
* I’m right…
* I’ll do it tomorrow…


* Are you losing the battle with your weight?
* Is youth slipping by at an uncomfortable pace?
* Is your love life on the skids?
* Worried sick about cancer or disease?
* Do you feel crazy/rushed?
* Are you fighting the glass ceiling in your career or finances?

Dr. King answered questions about career advancement, self-esteem, finding
passion, relationships, goal setting, illness, or even recovering from pain.

We also discussed the secret of dismantling the lies we tell ourselves that hold us back from achieving true potential and healing the mind and body.

Dr. King is a frequent guest on Fox News and CNN; her reputation for healing
and empowering others is unprecedented. She has survived sexual abuse,
financial woes, addiction, and cancer. Through her search for answers, she
eventually determined that anyone can release deep-seated layers of denial,
avoidance, fear, doubt and anger in order to find healing and promote personal
and professional growth.

Get Disney, Toyota, Coca-Cola to Sponsor Your Business

Tomorrow I will be interviewing Brendon Burchard on exactly how he got those Corporate and Non-Profit partners that have allowed him, in just the last 18 months, to reach millions of people with his message. With sponsors such as Disney, Toyota, and Coca-Cola, he’s quadrupled his income, and he’s helped his favorite charities
raise hundreds of thousands of dollars in donations and free publicity through these partnerships and sponsorships.”

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The interview will be available for replay immediately after the call ends if you can’t be there live.

And for international callers, you can avoid long distance charges by listening via the webcast buttons on the call info/replay page.

If you haven’t taken a look at Brendon’s site you owe it to your business and
your bank account to learn how he got all those famous people and big companies to partner with him and how you can do the same.

Here’s his site:

and then register for our call to learn how to do it for your business because it’s much quicker and easier than you think!

Personal Development Key: Take Responsibility for Your Life

Taking responsibility makes it possible for you to experience the total pleasure of the success you achieve. What? Read that again. I have a feeling that you didn’t give that thought time to sink in.

To fully be responsible, you must take responsibility for the good and the seemingly bad in your life—for your positive habits as well as your negative habits.

It reminds me of how parents will jokingly or not so jokingly say when a child does something good, “That’s my boy.” And when he does something wrong, “He’s your son.”

Taking responsibility comes with big benefits. You assess the situation and then take steps to change what doesn’t contribute to your personal success. When you take responsibility you experience the accomplishment of your personal success goals at a much higher level than if you only take credit for the good that comes into your life and blame someone else for the rest.

I admit that it took me quite a while to come to terms with cutting off the excess baggage I was carrying around. I seemed quite comfortable accepting responsibility in all areas of my life except for one.

I spent almost 10 years in an abusive relationship. I thought I was well along my path of personal success and spiritual growth at that time. I only read motivational and self-help books. I listened to personal growth tapes in my car. I lived and breathed the personal development principles I learned, or so I thought.

Despite all that positive reinforcement, I was wearing blinders to this horrible situation. But it wasn’t my fault, or so I told myself confidently. Obviously it had to be his fault because look at all the evidence of how empowered I was.

And yet, there I stayed. Being beaten up physically and verbally on a regular basis. If I had told anyone, they would have been shocked.

Looking back all these years later, I have a completely different perspective. I wasn’t so innocent in all this. I played some part or it couldn’t have happened.

If I were going to take responsibility, which means having the ability to respond and adapt rather than react to situations, I would have to give myself a serious reality check.

As painful as it may be to let go of the convenience of blaming someone else for what happens in your life, it’s necessary for you to move forward and be successful.

Because while you are still blaming or holding a grudge, like I was in that situation, a lot of energy that could be used for personal development is fueling anger, resentment and fear.

Think of this excess baggage from your past as a virus on your computer. On the surface everything looks like it’s running normally, but behind the scenes something is using up energy that slows down the progress of what you’re trying to create.

You have to look deep inside your computer to find that virus. You may have to engage the services of an expert to help you work it out. It’s inconvenient, but once done, you feel much better, your computer is back to full potential and you can work quickly with results showing up faster than before.

In that abusive relationship I had to look at the fact that I allowed myself to be manipulated. I handed over my power to someone else. No matter how persuasive his verbal abuse to break down my self-confidence, in the end he couldn’t be successful without my help.

Once I became responsible, I came up with a plan. And because I was now responding and adapting to situations rather than reacting like a victim, my plan got implemented, I created the desired result and extracted myself from that relationship.

I believe I could have ended up dead if I had allowed the violence to continue. It happens to women every day and I could have been one of them.

That’s why it’s so important for you to take back your power from partners, family, friends, and the media. You may not have ever been in a situation like I was and I hope you never are.


You are the only one who should be in charge of your life.

You bear the sole responsibility for who you are today and who you will become in the future— no one else is responsible for your personal growth and success.

Brett Favre Doesn’t Need To Go To The Super Bowl To Be A Success And Neither Do You

Growing up in Wisconsin I have been a Packers fan as log as I can remember. I grew up during the glory years of Vince Lombardi and Bart Starr.

I have never been prouder of what this team has accomplished than this year. First, Brett Favre came back to play with a very young, inexperienced team when he could have easily retired. He didn’t come back for another fat paycheck, he came back for the love of the game. I’d say he’s at least 10 years older than the majority of players ad yet each and every game , he plays with childlike joy and pure love of the game. There’s no denying it. It shows on his face the entire time he’s playing.

He assumed a leadership role for the young players on his team and that lead to a team that has become a well-oiled machine. At the beginning of the year I thought the Packers would make the playoffs and many thought I was crazy, but even I didn’t think they would make it to the National Championship game.

And they lost…in overtime, by a field goal.

So they aren’t going to the Super Bowl and it’s disappointing. But this young team became a great team this year with incredible leadership by a football legend. They had a very successful season and there is already talk of how this team will be a force to be reckoned with as they get better and grow together over the next couple years.

It hurts to not reach the pinnacle of whatever success you could potentially have at any given moment, but does that mean you’re not successful? Of course not!

Do you set yourself up to feel like a failure when you don’t make it to your personal version of the Super Bowl? Or do you look at how much you accomplished and congratulate yourself?

Yes, I’m sure the team will be watching those game films to review what they could have done better. Reviewing your performance is how you improve. Just don’t review to beat yourself up for what you didn’t do right.

Achieving a breakthrough to success sometimes looks like a small quiet success instead of a big public one, but all those small successes make all the difference in who you are becoming.

Just look at Brett Favre.

Daily Spiritual Practice: The Foundation for Your Breakthrough to Personal and Professional Development

Down through the ages, great thinkers, inventors, artists, statesman and philosophers have credited their spiritual connections for their successes.

If this seems like a strange place to begin, you may be wondering what this has to do with our topic of success and life mastery.

Daily spiritual practice is the foundation everything else builds upon to create an abundant life.

In studying the professional development of many of the wealthiest and most empowered millionaires, I found the majority of them start their day with an hour of spiritually oriented reading and meditation. Yes, I said an hour.

It seems like a lot of time for a busy successful person, but the consensus of the truly successful is that taking this time is what sets the tone for the day and gives them the energy they need for an incredibly busy life.

By the way, they also tend to go to bed later and get up earlier than the rest of the population.

How different would your life be a year from now if you added 365 more hours of positively invested time to your year?

If you normally work a 40-hour week, you’ve just added the equivalent of nine weeks to your year, devoted totally to your personal and professional development. And you thought you didn’t have time for personal growth or professional development in your life!

Let me explain what I, as a personal development mentor, term an empowered millionaire. They are different from other millionaires whose main focus may be on accumulating money. Empowered millionaires are what I consider to be truly successful people.

Empowered millionaires have a life purpose that serves others. This purpose is bigger than they are. Oprah is a great example of an empowered millionaire, as is Bill Gates.

Both of these incredibly wealthy people could be living a life of luxury, hording all their money and never working another day in their lives. Yet they are working overtime as philanthropists, helping to make the world a better place.

They go above and beyond simply writing a fat check to a cause, although I appreciate all the people who do that as well. My point is, that despite their busy schedules, they research and travel and work personally to improve the lives of as many people as possible.

That, to me, makes both Bill Gates and Oprah great examples of empowered, spiritually motivated super successful people.

Through their service to the world, spiritually based successful people have become wealthy beyond their wildest dreams. These multi-millionaires and billionaires work harder than most people I know, when they really don’t need to work at all.

Think about all the other examples of people you know who demonstrate their spirituality by freely sharing their knowledge, their money, or both with the world to make it a better place for everyone.  These are the people who are truly making a difference in the world.

We all owe them a debt of gratitude for their willingness to come forward and lead. They make things happen not just for profit, but because it’s the right thing to do. The energy to take on the work they do comes from the foundation of their daily spiritual practice.

Would you like to be incredibly wealthy, full of energy and purpose, living a life that makes you outrageously happy?

Would it be worth getting up a little earlier or missing the first half hour of the news in the morning?

If you don’t already have everything you want, I challenge you as your personal development mentor, to ask yourself …“How much effort is the life of my dreams worth to me?”

You may not see the full connections yet, but daily spiritual practice is the foundation for your breakthrough personal and professional development.

You can start with something as simple as being grateful for the opportunity of another day. Years ago in Las Vegas I met hypnotist Marshall Sylver, who suggests jumping out of bed every morning and saying what a beautiful day it is, filled with love, opportunity and abundance.

Any type of daily spiritual practice will keep you uplifted while you achieve personal and professional development and life mastery. It will also keep you grounded in the truth of who you are. As you implement daily spiritual practice, you will learn that it is the foundation to your personal growth, your professional development and your abundant life!

Are You Reaching All Your Personal Development and Professional Goals?

You have the opportunity in front of you right now to do great things. Set a plan and prioritize your day so you do what will get you where you want to go. Without a plan it’s too easy to be sidetracked by what other people think you should be doing, or by your own fears.

Distractions show up as anything from a friend calling to an emergency that seems to need your immediate attention. 99% of the time they are convenient disguises for your fears, giving you an acceptable excuse to put off working toward your goal.

An attitude of gratitude is easily maintained with a gratitude journal. It keeps you focused on reaffirming all the abundance that is currently showing up in your life. It creates a pattern in your brain that says, “Of course I’m abundant. Look at all this evidence!”

(This is a excerpt from “Change One Thing, Change Your Life” available at