Tag: vision

How to Recover After a Dream Falls Through

Just when I had a tight schedule of interviews and teaching, a big project that I as very emotionally invested in and had been working on for several months in fell apart.

And it all collapsed at the last minute when it appeared that it was a done deal. It was a shock and it was devastating to me personally.

I was emotionally distraught and I had an interview to do in 10 minutes.

I won’t go into details now, but I had 2 choices. I could totally fall apart and go into the ‘why me’ victim mode or I could take what action was available to me to repair the situation. I chose to look for ways to put the project back together if at all possible.

I’ve been working on it for the last week and it’s not something I’m able to fix, and now I’m going through a grieving period for a personal dream that isn’t going to happen right now in the way I had thought.

I have not given up on the dream though.

Now, if I was looking for an excuse to not take action on some of the things on my plate, this would be a perfectly acceptable excuse.

But I am going for my dreams 100% because I’ve created a vision for my life that’s running down the tracks like a runaway train. My life is moving forward because that’s the power of the momentum I’ve set in motion. I’ve created my life so that it’s virtually chicken-out proof unless I move to a far away land and take a vow of silence. (Me, silent?)

Wouldn’t you like to create a vision that strong for your life?
Wouldn’t it be great to have a plan that is virtually self-sabotage proof?

Could you benefit from working with a mentor who gets back up and keeps going when things get tough? If you’d like to work with me personally, email me.

Lynn Pierce, the Success Architect, has taught people how to combine
business and personal development to reach the pinnacle of success
and live the life of their dreams for over 25 years. In addition, she is also
the founder of one of the most exciting annual events for women entrepreneurs,
“Women’s Business Empowerment Summit”.

Why Fear of Success Is Blocking You More Than Fear of Failure

After reading Amy’s comment on the post about banishing fear from your life, I realized that it’s been a while since I’ve directly addressed the topic of “fear of success”. I believe it’s a much bigger roadblock to your success than fear of failure. It’s not like we haven’t all failed many times before and we know what that feels like and we have a mechanism in place for what we do when it happens. It may be unpleasant but at the same time it’s comfortable to a degree.

Some of our coping mechanisms are healthier than others, but that’s another topic.

Amy’s point, and mine, is that you have to be diligent at recognizing when it’s really fear of success that’s stopping you in you tracks.

Dr. Maxwell Maltz, Author of “Psycho-Cybernetics”, is quoted as saying, “Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not the one that has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act.”

So if that’s what fear of failure looks like, what does fear of success look like?

Are you playing it safe or going for it 100%? Are you really afraid that what you have to offer is so big that if you played full out you would scare people and they wouldn’t know how to respond to that powerful person you’ve become? Or is it that the picture of you being who you truly are is so foreign to you that you’re the one who doesn’t know what to do with that?

Creating a vision board of what you want your successful life to look like is a non-threatening “dreamy” way of getting started if you’re really blocked. But I believe that having a clear vision of what you want your life to look like and creating a blueprint of what that life will be and how you’re going to get there takes all the fear away because now you’re just taking one step at a time.

That’s what I do for my clients. I take them down that path of discovering what they want, creating the blueprint for how they will get there and holding their hand through the process. Bottom line, let someone else hold that vision for you until you can hold it for yourself.

Just remember, it can be done, if you don’t think you can do it alone, get a mentor like me to help you. You can reach me at Lynn at LynnPierce.com

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